Making resolutions is by far my highlight of the entire month of January.
I mean, what else do I have to look forward to? The holiday magic and jolly commercials disappear and casually go back to their usual programming.
My resolutions are the promises that I make to myself that I will end the year a happier and healthier human being. Creating this list isn’t just an excuse for me to claim the cliché “new year, new me”. It’s far more meaningful than that. It gives me the opportunity to speak things into existence and claim the successes that I wish to accomplish. More importantly, they keep me accountable for the things that I’d like to improve, rather than change, in the coming year.
If you’re not one for resolutions, you’re not alone. You may actually enjoy reading the 18 things that I WON’T be doing this year, instead. Read it here.
But here’s the ugly truth:
and what’s worse,
So I’ll be your poster child and share a glimmer of hope — they only work if you want them to. It’s called discipline people. I don’t ever write down resolutions that are outlandish or impossible to achieve.
I simply think of a handful of things that I’d like to do better and a few things that I’d be proud to say that I actually did before I do the big countdown as the ball drops.
But somehow, this year feels a little different.
2018 feels like the beast level of a video game that I’ve been busting my balls to get to for years. Some years felt like the levels that were just too easy — like I could walk away, take a phone call, make a sandwich and beat my opponent with my eyes closed. Other years *cough cough 2016 and 2017* felt like the levels that were impossible to beat. You know, the ones make you want to gouge out your eyeballs and scream “this is bullshit!”.
But I’ve worked so hard to get to this point. I’ve learned, scrapped my kneecaps, and risen to fight one more fight. And I hate to be this person but I think that this could actually “be my year”.
I plan to actually push myself out of my comfort zone. All of the things that I’ve been shamefully saying that I’ll “start on Monday” are things that I plan to do. The little things that I’ve tried to sweep under the rug and pretend aren’t there; yep, I’m calling those out too. Wanna know why? Because I want to tackle them. And that’s exactly what resolutions should be about.
So without further adieu, here are 18 things that I want to accomplish in 2018!
I’ve separated them nicely into five categories so I hit a little bit of everything. I’m trying to go for the whole, “well-rounded woman” vibe this year.
01. Take risks and run towards my fears
Oh boy, here I go. Maybe I really am starting to sound like the cliché. But in all seriousness, I’d like to stop being so scared of everything. Being concerned with other people’s thoughts and opinions of me is downright exhausting and steals me of my joy!
02. Make self-care a requirement
This is something that I’ve been slacking on for quite some time. Every now and then it’s healthy to take a personal day or simply grab some french fries and people-watch at the mall — you know, the usual stuff.
Truly, I want to be more encouraging and loving of myself in 2018. The world is full of people who I’m sure would love to pick me apart, so I definitely shouldn’t be one of them.
03. Forgive my dead-beat dad
That means that I should probably stop with the name calling…but I can’t help it guys. This one may take me a minute to master. It only comes from a place of deep pain though I promise.
My parents got divorced last year and I’m now decorated with a pretty gnarly scar to match. But at the end of the day, I love my dad. Don’t tell him I told you this, but I miss him like crazy. So for my own sanity and wellbeing, I want to forgive him, despite all of his mistakes and poor judgment.
04. Grow my blog to at least 500 followers
There. I said it. I’d like to take this blog to the big leagues. I don’t want to be the narcissist who brags over a cappuccino at Starbs about being a “big-time blogger”, I simply want to invest in this dream and reach as many amazing people as I can. See, I’m all about my people.
It’s been a dream of mine to be an influence and I truly think that this blog has so much potential. And selfishly, it’s making me a better person so who can blame me? But be honest. Do you think that I can do it?
05. Make NO a complete sentence
I saw a funny thing on Facebook once that said, “What do you not understand? The N or the O?”. Totally hilarious but it couldn’t be further from the truth.
I’m a total softy and completely crumble if someone asks me to do something that I’m not 100% on board with. Regardless of how it makes me feel, I just can’t stomach the idea of saying no. But life is too short to be such a Yes man. Every once in a while, I want to say N.O.
Treat. Yo. Self
06. Travel to 3-5 places on my bucket list
Boyfriend and I set a pretty high bar with our travels last year so this one may be tough to beat. But it wouldn’t be a resolution if it wasn’t a challenge right?
So far we’ve started brainstorming a few things. I’ll quickly run them by you and you can let me know what you think!
- A cruise to the Eastern Caribbean — it sounds super bougie but I promise, it’s more realistic than you think. Look it up on Carnival!
- A trip back to the homeland (Ohio. I’m talking about Ohio.)
- A week in Illinois to be a part of my best friend’s wedding
- The Grand Canyon
- ….and MAYBE Disneyland because I’ve been whining about it since I was six
07. Pamper myself every once in a while
I want to be shouting, Man! I feel like a woman! every time I leave the nail salon. And these eyebrows. Oh honey. I’m starting to feel like a long-lost member of the Chewbacca family.
Making some time and spending a few bucks to make myself feel pretty never hurt anyone 🙂
08. Channel my inner Rachael Ray
Cooking more will not only save me some mula, but it will certainly prove to myself that I’m wifey material.
09. Enjoy some “me” time
I want to start reading a little more and enjoying the quiet moments where I can close my eyes and think. As an extrovert, I’m comforted by the company of others, but I could use a little more R&R.
Plus, it’ll give me some time to catch up on House Hunters and The Real Housewives without having to fight for the remote.
10. Open a credit card
I’m sure you’ve seen those Credit Karma commercials that show these poor people terrified to check their score. They are an accurate depiction of my life. They are me and I am them.
Like most college grads, I’m crippling in student loan debt. One day, and hopefully before my funeral, I’d like to own a car. And if I’m lucky, a home with a driveway to park the car.
I’ve always been scared to open a credit card but I think that it’s a healthy time to start a line of credit and get my score up and perky. Homeownership, here I come!
11. Create a budget that I actually stick to
I was kind of on-again, off-again with budgeting in 2017. Just when I thought that I was in a good spot, I’d start slacking and was left wondering where the heck did all of my hard-earned money go?! This year I want to take more responsibility and discipline myself to create a budget and stick with it so I don’t have to close my eyes and pray when I’m in the check out line buying Ramen.
12. Trade in my car
I tried and failed in trying to register my car in my name and trade it in last year. Wahh, poor me. I’ve gotten over it now and I’m ready to try again! I’d love to try to finance a new car and put that bad boy in my name.
13. Have a savings account that I can rely on
Let’s just say that this was another L for me. I started off strong and then crashed near the end. I want to give this another shot!
Love & Relationships
14. Keep in touch with long-distance friends and relatives
I’m sure we’ve all been guilty of this once or twice. Seeing an old friend or family member online and saying, “Hey, it’s been so long! We should catch up”…only to realize 6-9 months later that you never stayed in touch. No more, my friends. No more.
I’ve moved all over the place so I have friends far and wide; many of which have pretty amazing lives. I’d like to be better in keeping up with them in the coming year.
15. Focus on the growth of my relationship
My relationship has survived the love version of a child’s terrible two’s and I feel like the best is yet to come for us! We have great things planned and I’m pretty sure that he still loves me. So I’m looking forward to seeing our relationship flourish during our third year as a couple.
16. Nurture the relationships with my quality friends
I don’t have a flock of friends, but I certainly do have a handful that I absolutely adore. Now that I’m staying put in Arizona for a while, I want to spend time nurturing the wonderful friendships that I’m lucky to have. More girls nights, happy hours, and all-you-can-eat pizza, here we come!
Boss Lady Goals
17. Dress like the job I want, not the job I have
It’s a saying that I heard once…somewhere…and it’s pretty good don’t you think? If you want to be the CEO, you’ve gotta dress like you’ve already got the job. I want to make some strides in my career and that all starts with having a confident mindset (and wardrobe).
18. Don’t settle
I shouldn’t settle in my personal life so I should apply the same rule to my professional life. I want to continue working hard and setting the bar high. Who knows, maybe I’ll climb a little further up the ladder and get something crazy like a promotion! Okay okay, I’m getting a little carried away but hey, only time will tell.
What are some of your goals and resolutions for 2018?
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