18 before ’18 : New Year Resolutions

Making resolutions is by far my highlight of the entire month of January.

I mean, what else do I have to look forward to? The holiday magic and jolly commercials disappear and casually go back to their usual programming.

My resolutions are the promises that I make to myself that I will end the year a happier and healthier human being. Creating this list isn’t just an excuse for me to claim the cliché “new year, new me”. It’s far more meaningful than that. It gives me the opportunity to speak things into existence and claim the successes that I wish to accomplish. More importantly, they keep me accountable for the things that I’d like to improve, rather than change, in the coming year.

If you’re not one for resolutions, you’re not alone. You may actually enjoy reading the 18 things that I WON’T be doing this year, instead. Read it here.

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But here’s the ugly truth:

80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by February

and what’s worse,

Only 8 percent of people actually keep their New Year’s resolutions

So I’ll be your poster child and share a glimmer of hope — they only work if you want them to. It’s called discipline people. I don’t ever write down resolutions that are outlandish or impossible to achieve.

I simply think of a handful of things that I’d like to do better and a few things that I’d be proud to say that I actually did before I do the big countdown as the ball drops.

But somehow, this year feels a little different.

2018 feels like the beast level of a video game that I’ve been busting my balls to get to for years. Some years felt like the levels that were just too easy — like I could walk away, take a phone call, make a sandwich and beat my opponent with my eyes closed. Other years *cough cough 2016 and 2017* felt like the levels that were impossible to beat. You know, the ones make you want to gouge out your eyeballs and scream “this is bullshit!”.

But I’ve worked so hard to get to this point. I’ve learned, scrapped my kneecaps, and risen to fight one more fight. And I hate to be this person but I think that this could actually “be my year”.

Here’s why: 

I plan to actually push myself out of my comfort zone. All of the things that I’ve been shamefully saying that I’ll “start on Monday” are things that I plan to do. The little things that I’ve tried to sweep under the rug and pretend aren’t there; yep, I’m calling those out too. Wanna know why? Because I want to tackle them. And that’s exactly what resolutions should be about.

So without further adieu, here are 18 things that I want to accomplish in 2018!

I’ve separated them nicely into five categories so I hit a little bit of everything. I’m trying to go for the whole, “well-rounded woman” vibe this year. 

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Personal Growth

01. Take risks and run towards my fears

Oh boy, here I go. Maybe I really am starting to sound like the cliché. But in all seriousness, I’d like to stop being so scared of everything. Being concerned with other people’s thoughts and opinions of me is downright exhausting and steals me of my joy!

I took a few strides of this in 2017 — by getting some tattoos and going on a spontaneous cruise — and it felt amazing. I want some more of that in the coming year.

02. Make self-care a requirement

This is something that I’ve been slacking on for quite some time. Every now and then it’s healthy to take a personal day or simply grab some french fries and people-watch at the mall — you know, the usual stuff.

Truly, I want to be more encouraging and loving of myself in 2018. The world is full of people who I’m sure would love to pick me apart, so I definitely shouldn’t be one of them.

03. Forgive my dead-beat dad

That means that I should probably stop with the name calling…but I can’t help it guys. This one may take me a minute to master. It only comes from a place of deep pain though I promise.

My parents got divorced last year and I’m now decorated with a pretty gnarly scar to match. But at the end of the day, I love my dad. Don’t tell him I told you this, but I miss him like crazy. So for my own sanity and wellbeing, I want to forgive him, despite all of his mistakes and poor judgment.

04. Grow my blog to at least 500 followers

There. I said it. I’d like to take this blog to the big leagues. I don’t want to be the narcissist who brags over a cappuccino at Starbs about being a “big-time blogger”, I simply want to invest in this dream and reach as many amazing people as I can. See, I’m all about my people.

It’s been a dream of mine to be an influence and I truly think that this blog has so much potential. And selfishly, it’s making me a better person so who can blame me? But be honest. Do you think that I can do it?

05. Make NO a complete sentence

I saw a funny thing on Facebook once that said, “What do you not understand? The N or the O?”. Totally hilarious but it couldn’t be further from the truth.

I’m a total softy and completely crumble if someone asks me to do something that I’m not 100% on board with. Regardless of how it makes me feel, I just can’t stomach the idea of saying no. But life is too short to be such a Yes man. Every once in a while, I want to say N.O.

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Treat. Yo. Self

06. Travel to 3-5 places on my bucket list

Boyfriend and I set a pretty high bar with our travels last year so this one may be tough to beat. But it wouldn’t be a resolution if it wasn’t a challenge right?

So far we’ve started brainstorming a few things. I’ll quickly run them by you and you can let me know what you think!

  • A cruise to the Eastern Caribbean — it sounds super bougie but I promise, it’s more realistic than you think. Look it up on Carnival!
  • A trip back to the homeland (Ohio. I’m talking about Ohio.)
  • A week in Illinois to be a part of my best friend’s wedding
  • The Grand Canyon
  • ….and MAYBE Disneyland because I’ve been whining about it since I was six
07. Pamper myself every once in a while

I want to be shouting, Man! I feel like a woman! every time I leave the nail salon. And these eyebrows. Oh honey. I’m starting to feel like a long-lost member of the Chewbacca family.

Making some time and spending a few bucks to make myself feel pretty never hurt anyone 🙂

08. Channel my inner Rachael Ray

I’m no Iron Chef. That’s just my fancy way of saying that I’d like to start cooking more and give my $25 Tasty cookbook the attention it deserves.

Cooking more will not only save me some mula, but it will certainly prove to myself that I’m wifey material.

09. Enjoy some “me” time

I want to start reading a little more and enjoying the quiet moments where I can close my eyes and think. As an extrovert, I’m comforted by the company of others, but I could use a little more R&R.

Plus, it’ll give me some time to catch up on House Hunters and The Real Housewives without having to fight for the remote.

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Financial Health

10. Open a credit card

I’m sure you’ve seen those Credit Karma commercials that show these poor people terrified to check their score. They are an accurate depiction of my life. They are me and I am them.

Like most college grads, I’m crippling in student loan debt. One day, and hopefully before my funeral, I’d like to own a car. And if I’m lucky, a home with a driveway to park the car.

I’ve always been scared to open a credit card but I think that it’s a healthy time to start a line of credit and get my score up and perky. Homeownership, here I come!

11. Create a budget that I actually stick to

I was kind of on-again, off-again with budgeting in 2017. Just when I thought that I was in a good spot, I’d start slacking and was left wondering where the heck did all of my hard-earned money go?! This year I want to take more responsibility and discipline myself to create a budget and stick with it so I don’t have to close my eyes and pray when I’m in the check out line buying Ramen.

12. Trade in my car

I tried and failed in trying to register my car in my name and trade it in last year. Wahh, poor me. I’ve gotten over it now and I’m ready to try again! I’d love to try to finance a new car and put that bad boy in my name.

13. Have a savings account that I can rely on

Let’s just say that this was another L for me. I started off strong and then crashed near the end. I want to give this another shot!

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Love & Relationships

14. Keep in touch with long-distance friends and relatives

I’m sure we’ve all been guilty of this once or twice. Seeing an old friend or family member online and saying, “Hey, it’s been so long! We should catch up”…only to realize 6-9 months later that you never stayed in touch. No more, my friends. No more.

I’ve moved all over the place so I have friends far and wide; many of which have pretty amazing lives. I’d like to be better in keeping up with them in the coming year.

15. Focus on the growth of my relationship

My relationship has survived the love version of a child’s terrible two’s and I feel like the best is yet to come for us! We have great things planned and I’m pretty sure that he still loves me. So I’m looking forward to seeing our relationship flourish during our third year as a couple.

16. Nurture the relationships with my quality friends

I don’t have a flock of friends, but I certainly do have a handful that I absolutely adore. Now that I’m staying put in Arizona for a while, I want to spend time nurturing the wonderful friendships that I’m lucky to have. More girls nights, happy hours, and all-you-can-eat pizza, here we come!

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Boss Lady Goals 

17. Dress like the job I want, not the job I have

It’s a saying that I heard once…somewhere…and it’s pretty good don’t you think? If you want to be the CEO, you’ve gotta dress like you’ve already got the job. I want to make some strides in my career and that all starts with having a confident mindset (and wardrobe).

18. Don’t settle

I shouldn’t settle in my personal life so I should apply the same rule to my professional life. I want to continue working hard and setting the bar high. Who knows, maybe I’ll climb a little further up the ladder and get something crazy like a promotion! Okay okay, I’m getting a little carried away but hey, only time will tell.

 

 

What are some of your goals and resolutions for 2018?

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16 Comments Add yours

    1. I’m going to try my very best 🙂 thanks friend.

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  1. Reblogged this on Talks With Tati and commented:
    Love This!

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  2. Your blog is so beautiful, your face is so beautiful, together they will take over 2018!! Happy New year Paige!!!

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    1. You are way too kind!! Excuse me while I bury my blushing face in my hands and cover the huge smile on my face right now. Thank you so much 😍 I am so jazzed to see where I’ll go from here. I am beyond happy to have you along for the ride. Sending hugs and positive vibes to you as you enter the new year 💕

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  3. Happy new year and have fun with the goals, a lot of people don’t stick with them but I feel if you write them down, then they are more likely going to become real as you can remind yourself of them. 🙂

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    1. I completely agree! Writing them down feels like they’re real and you’re claiming the change for the year. I can’t wait to see how well I do in accomplishing them in 2018. Thank you so much and Happy New Year 🙂

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  4. Padmasandhya says:

    So many goals and I’m pretty sure you are going to achieve them all! I like the fact that you honoured #1 ‘Take risks and run towards my fears’ by fearlessly posting about your resolutions and not worrying about failure! In fact, I mentioned about this in my blog post yesterday! Do check it out: https://lotustwilight.wordpress.com/2018/01/02/january-2-the-forgotten-date/

    🙂

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    1. Thank you so very much! I’d love to take a look at your blog – I’ll head over right now and take a look. Happy New Year 🙂

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  5. All very good goals! Can I bite on the blog growth goal too? lol

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    1. Absolutely! I have no doubt that you’ll crush your blogging goals in 2018! I can’t wait to see you blossom and take over the world, one vulnerable story at a time.

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  6. I’ve been asleep since January 1st, so I’m just catching up. In my own piece today, I used the same research as you, it seems, and found the 8% number. Ironically, I used it as a motivation, because 8% is a large number of success stories when we do the math! Plus, hey, succeeding where only one in 12 succeed … that kinda makes us special, eh? 😉

    Paige, this was a great list. I get the impression you’re one of the 8%, the folks that set an intention and then follow through. I have no doubt you will succeed, and I will enjoy watching your 2018 success story unfold. 🙂

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    1. Oh Tom, you and I are kindered spirits who look at this concept as the glass ‘half full’ — I love that!

      And I can’t thank you enough, really. Such kind words. I’m feeling absolutely electrified about this new year so I can’t wait to share the story(ies) with you 🙂 Happy New Year!

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  7. These are all excellent attainable goals. I have similar blogging goals. My one resolution is to generate livable income without a full-time job.

    On the money front, I have been where you are and come out the other side. I do have a couple of posts on budgeting that you might find helpful. http://openmouthsgetfed.com

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    1. Digital air high-five on the blogging goals! I would LOVE to have livable income beyond my 9-5 day job. What a dream. I’m working on it.

      Oooh! I’d really value reading a few of those. I’ll head on over and take a read 🙂

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